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| Mrs. Robinson and Miss Grafel |
This morning I received an email telling me that my fifth-grade teacher, Miss Mabel Grafel, passed away last week at the age of 97.
Judi and I had had the opportunity to visit with her about ten years or so ago (she was in her eighties at the time), so I didn’t really have a sense of
Oh, I wish I could have told her…. Still, I read the news with a pang.
Few people have been so instrumental in molding my adult life as she was.
My love affair with Miss Grafel really began while I was in Mrs. Robinson’s fourth-grade class at Burlington Elementary School in Billings, Montana. I don’t have very many clear memories from childhood but I do remember sitting in my desk in Mrs. Robinson’s class and looking out the open door and across the hall to where Miss Grafel could frequently be seen moving up and down the rows of students. Two things stand out to this day: the passion which she brought to teaching and the tables along the windows where she kept dozens of African violets that bloomed profusely throughout the year, bringing color and life to bleak Montana winters. Occasionally I would see signs that she maintained strict discipline in her classes—once or twice, I saw her snap a ruler at the back of a student’s hand (then that was perfectly within the prerogatives of an elementary teacher…and Miss Grafel used that ruler to good ends).
Even so, for whatever reasons, all during that fourth-grade year, I wished that I were in her class.
During that summer, my older sister, who in fact had been in that class although I couldn’t see her desk from where I sat across the hall, let it be known that she was going to grow up and be a teacher. To get in practice, she, my brother and other sister, and I held daily practice runs in the basement. Cleta was the teacher and we were her students, sitting dutifully at her feet and learning about adding and subtracting and dividing and multiplying…and reading. Especially about reading.
Cleta so completely channeled Miss Grafel’s love of teaching that the daily classrooms became our primary activity. For years afterward, out mother used to claim—with more than a hint of pride in her voice—that she was the only mother on the block (which included probably thirty or so elementary-school-aged children) who had to send her kids
outside to play for at least an hour a day.
She would also talk about how eager—and anxious—I was for school to start that fall. I wanted to be in Miss Grafel’s class. Apparently, my desire was so strong that it nearly made me sick, so it was with a tremendous sense of relief when we received our school assignments and I saw that I had indeed been placed in her class.
What I didn’t know—and would not know for some years—was that Miss Grafel had gone through the names of incoming fifth-graders and picked me for her class.
Nor did I know for some time that on the first day of school, my mother confronted Miss Grafel after class and told her in no uncertain terms that if she ever compared my work with my sister’s, or me to my sister, my mother would, in her words, “yank him from that class so fast it will make your head spin and send him to his grandmother’s for the rest of the school year.”
Now, my mother was a pretty intimidating person. I still cringe at the thought of the tongue-lashings waitresses received for putting mayonnaise on a BLT in a restaurant, or for mixing up items on orders. And that carried over into every aspect of her life…and her children’s.
So I can only imagine her reaction when Miss Grafel straightened to her full height (which, to a particularly short almost-eleven-year-old, seemed like at least ten feet) and stared right back at her. “Mrs. Collings, I
don’t ever compare students’ work.” And she never did.
I don’t recall much from the day-to-day lessons in Miss Grafel’s fifth-grade class. I remember thinking that the word ‘perimeter’, which came up in math one day, was probably pronounced
perry-meter, until Miss Grafel spoke it out loud. That was the first time my early training in phonetics played me wrong, and from then on I was wary about saying new words out loud. (About the same time, I had a Sunday School teacher who would frequently talk about her little
idi-o-syn-CRA-sies, so at least I wasn’t the only one with the problem.)
I remember her reading stories to the class. We could rest our heads on our desks while Miss Grafel read book after book. One was about a basset hound named ‘Potlicker’ who, at the end of the story, was killed by a passing train. That was the first time I remember crying over a character in a story.
But most of all I remember moments after class, when most of the other students had raced out to head home as soon as possible.
Once in a while I would stay behind. Cleta would find me in the classroom, watching as Miss Grafel watered and groomed her stable of African violets and talk to me about the plants. She would occasionally pinch off a leaf and show me how to fill a cup with moist soil, secure plastic wrap around the cup’s rim, and push the leaf stem through a small hole. I would take the cup home and, in a few days, when the leaf began to root, transplant it to a small pot. After a while, I had half a dozen African violets of my own growing on the window sill.
That’s pretty much what I remember…but I know that more must have happened because I graduated from fifth-grade every bit as determined to become a school teacher as my sister had been.
Both of us remained true to that determination, Cleta as a teacher in the Tehachapi California junior high school, and me as a professor of English at Pepperdine University for nearly thirty years. And both of us credit Miss Grafel with first instilling that desire.
During my school years, I was blessed with several extraordinary teachers. I remember Miss McGranahan, who taught high-school biology and cancelled a scheduled test so that we could watch John Glenn begin the first orbital flight of the earth—“Nothing I could say today would be as important as seeing this happen,” she told us.
At Whittier College, Dr. Gilbert McEwen showed me, perhaps more than any other professor, how to communicate a love of literature to students. Dr. Harry Nerhood, of the history department, encouraged me to learn and love research, going so far as to sponsor me in several semesters of independent study. And Dr. William Geiger took my incipient love of Milton and the Renaissance and nurtured it until it became full-fledged. It was on his advice that I began graduate studies at the University of
Riverside, California.
There were two compelling reasons for me to attend Riverside. First, my family lived there, which would give me a kind of home-base when needed. And second, Professor John M. Steadman, a world-class Milton scholar, taught in the English program.
My first graduate class was with Dr. Steadman—a seminar on the Epic as literary form. At the first mid-class break (we met for three hours once a week), I felt like quitting school and becoming a ditch digger. I hadn’t understood a thing he said. Then I overheard two fourth-year grad students talking.
“Did you follow that?”
“Not a word of it.”
I figured that if they were as lost as I was, maybe I could make it through the program. By the second and third weeks, I had discovered that Dr. Steadman simply knew more than any other person I had ever (or have ever) encountered. And he did us the honor of assuming that his students were equally knowledgeable. We weren’t, but that didn’t keep us from trying to catch up with him. We never did. Still, being exposed to an intellect of his caliber was the most stimulating part of my graduate experience. I took a course from him every semester—he only taught one class at a time, and fortunately he didn’t repeat any while I was there. Eventually he became my dissertation advisor and the chair of my doctoral committee. He placed my doctoral hood on my shoulders at commencement, the symbol that I had completed by formal education.
Each of these men and women contributed immeasurably to the person—the
teacher—I was to become.
But at the beginning, and as a memory-presence throughout, was Miss Mabel Grafel.
Around thirty years ago—at least two decades after my tenure in her class--while I was mid-career at Pepperdine, I had several recurrent dreams about Miss Grafel. I mentioned them to Judi, and, being of the practical sort, she said, “Why don’t you call her?”
I called directory assistance for Billings, Montana, and received a single listing for M. Grafel. When I dialed the number, a cheerful voice answered, “Mabel Grafel.”
“Are you the Mabel Grafel who taught at”—here I stumbled, because I had almost forgotten the name of the school; then it came to me—“at Burlington School?”
There was a slight pause before she said, “Yes.”
“Well, I was one of your students. Michael Collings.”
There was a slightly longer pause, then: “Michael! How are you? How is Cleta? And Bruce and Valerie?”
She remembered us all, even though only two of us had been in her class. What a thrill!
It turned out that she and a number of other retired teachers were planning a trip to Hawaii the next week and that she would be passing through Los Angeles on her way. We agreed to meet at the airport.
When the time came, we bundled our four children in the car, and Judi and I went to meet her.
I remember looking for this ten-foot-tall, stern-faced authority-figure and nearly passing by a neat, diminutive woman with soft grey hair and a smiling face. We had a wonderful if short reunion, and I had the opportunity to introduce her to my family, and my children to the person who had taught me to want to teach.
Twenty years later, Judi and I took a trip to Utah, Colorado, Wyoming, and Montana, and stopped in Billings. I didn’t expect Miss Grafel to still be there, but she was…living in a tiny little ivy-covered house (which she had shared with her mother until her mother’s death) filled with memorabilia—and African violets. Even though she was in her eighties at the time, she was as bright, as full of life, as energetic as always. We had a delightful visit.
Thinking back over it, except for family, there is no single individual who has played such an integral part of my life for as many years—from when I was a child of ten to when I was a husband, father (and grandfather), and teacher. A number of years ago, I tried to express in words her effect on me and on my life. The result was three versions of a poem—“Mabel Grafel (I),” “Mabel Grafel (II),” and “African Violets.” None of them quite realized what I was after, but each tried to suggest what this woman meant to a shy, bookish, somewhat introverted boy who found a life-long calling through her. Here is one of them:
Mabel Grafel
Mabel Grafel--unsmiling, iron-haired,
Grim gargoyle to all fifth-grade rowdies--
Kept rows of violets in neat formations on
A narrow table tucked as if
A lonely afterthought beneath high
Window-banks along the north-most wall of
Burlington School.
That winter,
Snow began in January and fell for weeks.
The road to Burlington was graded once a day,
But we small pupils scuttled between iced
Prison walls that towered two feet
Over us as we threaded our long three miles
To the school.
Everything froze.
Headbolt heaters froze while still
Plugged into engines; sewer lines burst,
Turning whole long blocks of new backyards
Into only slightly fragrant skating rinks--
We ran short PhysEd races on ice-slick walks,
Tucked inside thick fur-lined parkas, and still
Half-froze our lips and noses with each painful
Breath.
But in her room, laid out
In rigid rows upon brown boards that glowed
Rich birch-grain-gold in the angled light,
Her violets prismed winter into spring.
Thank you, Miss Grafel, for the African Violets…and for everything else.